How To Move Forward When Nothing Feels Right Anymore
“I had enough.” These words sound like a distraction to you before, but now it just keeps echoing louder and louder in your heart.
You look at the mirror and finally admitted to yourself, “This is it, nothing feels good anymore.”
You’ve been through this before, perhaps unknowingly, but this time you know it’s different.
This time, you desire a path that will ultimately change your life, and not just to get out of pain and suffering.
This time, more than ever, you want redemption.
Redemption from your near-empty bank accounts and unpaid bills, from your broken relationships, from the pile of unfinished and unworked goals on your bucketlist, or perhaps from simply not being the person you wanted to be.
These things aren’t just there to make you little, you believe it too right? These, can never define your life.
My girlfriend loves to say, “Everything happens for a reason.” And now I’m saying this so that you can let this mess you’re into, become your reason and motivation too.
Here are steps you can do to move forward, if you’re in this crucial situation.
1. Decide
Everything starts with a decision. So decide to fully commit this time.
You have to accept that everything is in ruin right now because of you. Because you haven’t been fully committing. It’s not because of other people’s mistakes, or just sheer luck.
You have to own your situation.
So commit to improve yourself to a better version of you. Commit to secure your future and your family. Commit to love your partner, and your loved ones selflessly.
Decide once and for all that now that you had enough, you are going to make things new, and that you’ll do everything in your power to push forward no matter how hard it takes.
Remember, “the next level of your life requires a different you.”
2. Forgive
You can never move forward without forgiveness.
The hatred, grudges, disappointments, envy, insecurities, and fear that you feel for yourself and others are like baggages at your back that slow and weigh you down.
You cannot go where you need to be if you keep on carrying them.
Hence, unload them. Start learning how to forgive, and do it.
Again, everything happens for a reason. Failures and disappointments happen to strengthen you and to teach you a lesson.
Do not poison yourself by keeping them all in your heart. These are energies waiting to be transformed to better things, and only you have the power to do it.
Transform these things unceasingly. Create beautiful things from them without end. And forgive endlessly.
In the bible, I am amazed how the Apostle Paul beautifully wrote this truth in his letter for the church in Colossae.
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13
Repeat: “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
The Lord is great because he never get tired, forgiving. And we are called to forgive the same way as Him.
Through reflecting on His words, it is as if the Lord is telling us that only when we forgive, can we remove from our lives the things that cripple us.
These things need to be removed so a new light can enter us. So love and beautiful things can happen.
How exciting it is to live, knowing that nothing can weigh you down in your path anymore?
I know it’s hard to forgive. It sounds illogical to just let things go, but it’s part of the process that anyone who wants to truly move forward has to take.
3. Begin Taking a Step, and Make Sure to Consider Everyone You Love In Your Journey.
Every thought and decision must now be put into action. It’s not necessary to take big leaps at the start. Begin taking little steps instead.
Start with as simple as changing or starting an easy habit.
Try adding a serving of vegetable in every meal, and by saying a word of thanksgiving before eating.
Say thank you to your loved ones as much as you can.
Or every time you buy something, keep all your change in a small box and be surprised how much you can save in a month, and decide to invest them on a stock.
List down the things that make you happy and do them. It doesn’t matter whether they are part of your goals for now.
Get a feel of yourself, and what you do best. Let your creativity run.
Now the second part of this step, is considering the ones that you love and important to you.
I think that one mistake in this world we’re doing is that we always try to be so independent, without accepting the fact that we are all interconnected and dependent of each other.
Ever heard of an advice to remove toxic family members in your life? What if you have relatives, or say, a wife or partner that’s suffering from depression, that slows you down your goal? Would you remove them just because they don’t help you achieve what you desire in life?
What we almost always forget is that every one is on a journey. Maybe a certain person is toxic right now. Maybe you are at your worst right now. But that is not a reason for you or for anyone to be left behind, especially by the people you loved.
So consider everyone you love in your journey if you want to push forward with life. I’ve talked about this in a bigger scale when I wrote why we need to redefine our concept of world peace.
Begin by being transparent to them and letting them know about your plans, and your willingness to change and improve. Let them know that you want their help and support, and trust that they will take it seriously.
In the end, love is the great equalizer.
And things will fall in their right places with the right amount of it.
Sooner you’ll see, if you just walk forward with love for yourself and others, you’ll arrive at a time, where things are exactly on the way they are supposed to be, and the way you have envisioned them to be.
